I’m sure every parent will find some resemblance to this scene. Now tell me you never once shrieked, squealed, screeched or screamed and I’ll come & touch your feet
THE QUICKEST WAY FOR A PARENT
TO GET THEIR CHILD’S ATTENTION
IS TO SIT DOWN AND LOOK COMFORTABLE
The fact is that we all fall short of the ideal (at least by the rule book standard). What do we do after we fall? Do we have nightmares feeling all guilty? Do we worry our child is being abused and try to compensate for what we did wrong to our child? Yes maybe a little, but it doesn’t do any good to your child or yourself to judge yourself too harshly. We have to set the limits, boundaries and rules for the child and stick to them ourselves. An occasional shout doesn’t ruin your child’s personality( I have a problem with occasional spank though- since the activity is so addictive a parent might lose control of where to stop). One cannot lose sleep feeling guilty about that. Much harm is done by compensatory behavior. If we have no time for our child we try to compensate, rather buy their love by bribing (giving in to their demands, buying unnecessary gifts). Without being too preachy all I want to communicate is that- if your child knows you love them and dislike their particular deed or behavior, they will
still continue to love you and you are still a good parent to them.
I PLAN TO GIVE U
& JUST ENOUGH DYSFUNCTIONAL
2 MAKE YOU FUNNY
More recently parents are faced with a peculiar dilemma- To be a more like a guide a parent or to be more like a friend and companion. It is indeed a tightrope to walk. One wrong step and you crash out. No matter how open we are with our children we need to accept (without weighing it too much on our ego) that there may be things that the child will share only with
friends or rather keep away from us. No matter how many bottles of beer you share with your teenager if he/she smokes a pot the chances are high that he/she doesn’t come and tell you. So what does a parent do? I for one am totally clueless. All the same I feel that one has to trust instinct and good sense, to cut the cake and have it too. The trick lies in being seen by your child as a
confidant/friend as well as a guardian angel. Basically, a parent has to be a good juggler, slipping seamlessly into different shoes.
PLEASE PASS ME THE
PARENTING BOOK I
NEED TO SMACK MY
CHILD WITH IT
So parenting is something which has to be learned on the field, changing according to the requirement of the child, age and time. There are no shortcuts for becoming a good parent. One has to go through the tough job of child-rearing guided by instinct and certain basic values like- affection, mutual respect, and of course love. By having the resolve to nurture a child into a good human being, a parent grows and learns along with the child. For example reading a book on gardening, seeking advice from experts and tips from friends may help you to create a decent garden. At the end of the day, it is your effort that can make a garden bloom. Only you can attend to the plants specific needs with loving care, give it time, keep a certain plant away from the scorching heat, pluck out the dead leaves, give it medicine etc. The first and basic step towards holistic parenting is having the resolve to provide a beautiful childhood to your child and make them flower into wonderful contributing human beings.
YOU CAN’T SCARE ME
I HAVE CHILDREN
A good parent doesn’t just provide for the physical needs of the child but rather, takes care that the soul is nourished too. A beautiful soul emerges when values and good morals like respect for fellow human’s, empathy, honesty, fortitude, and kindness etc are inculcated in the child. A good parent is also one who encourages, curiosity, learning, and exploration, keeping in mind that the child too is a different individual with different interests, expectations, and goals. It takes truck loads of patience to let
your child tie that shoelace on his/her own in the morning while the school bus is honking – But then if missing the bus one day means your child learns something new then so be it. The job of a good parent is to make the childincreasingly self-reliant. Wow! That was easy towrite….if only practicing it was just as simple….HAPPY PARENTING…HAPPY PRACTICING.