#MeToo – Against the double standards of Anti-#MeToo

The #MeToo campaign has created a revolution of sorts. So what exactly has the campaign achieved? It has brought out the dark side of Hollywood as well as other industries from the shadows to the forefront. The vulnerable, refuse to accept that the ladder to success comes with dark contingencies, which have to be put up with. The abused no longer hide their perils like the guilty and let the rich and famous get away with it. It has brought in a breath of fresh air for the victims. It provided the victims an opportunity to get past their feelings of haplessness & psychological as well as physical traumas by coming out in the open as fighters. It is always a tough battle when fighting against the rich and powerful. Justice often gets stifled. A united voice however is the strongest ammunition in such instances.

 

Unfortunately, there has been an attempt to bring the #MeToo campaign to its knees by a group of women.I read somewhere that women are their own greatest enemy, but I found it hard to accept whole-heartedly. Yet the antics of a few French Women & self-proclaimed representatives of a Democratic voice, are positioning themselves as worst enemy of Women.

The Guardian reported on Sun, 14th Jan 2018 –

 

French women made headlines all over the world last week. And not because they never get fat or their children never throw food, as a series of American bestsellers put it, but because 100 of them signed an open letter published in Le Monde offering an alternative view of the #MeToo campaign and drawing attention to what they regard as rampant censorship in feminist ranks. In signing the letter, the French film star Catherine Deneuve set the feminist world ablaze.

 

 

They spoke their mind in a Gallic manner: straightforwardly, to the point of appearing blunt. The letter was also strikingly badly edited, with clumsy chunks unworthy of their authors. But, in short, they think the campaign by the #MeToo movement to tackle sexual harassment represents a “puritanical … wave of purification”; that “rape is a crime, but trying to seduce someone, even persistently or cackhandedly, is not, nor is being gentlemanly a macho attack”. They went on to proclaim that “what began as freeing women up to speak has today turned into the opposite – we intimidate people into speaking ‘correctly’, shout down those who don’t fall into line, and those women who refused to bend [to the new realities] are regarded as complicit and traitors”.

 

 

What could be the reason for such a backlash I wonder? Perhaps, this stems from the urge to protect their guilty relatives, friends or bosses. While democracy is about having the right to disagree, this view of sexual democracy is blatantly perverse and regressive.

 

Rape, sexual abuse and murder has become such a daily reality that we are often left too sickened, numbed and even deadened to react or speak about it. I had given up being vocal about it because no matter what I voice it won’t make any difference. A few days ago I read about the little girl from Kasur, Pakistan and today about the shocking rape and murder in Indian state of Haryana. I feel agitated and my blood gets boiling. But my sole voice will not make the slightest of difference. A united front has however the power to bring about momentous changes. Therefore, it is all the more important that any attempt to dismiss or throttle is stopped.

 

If we live in a conservative community girls are taught about ways to avoid getting raped. Don’t wear revealing dresses, don’t go out in the night, don’t laugh too much and give men any impression that you are easy going, don’t go to pubs and so on. If we live in the so-called progressive society then the rules are all burled and hard to decipher. You are thought to be too uptight, peevish and boring if you cover-up. You are a fun person if you show some curves or cleavage, but if sexual abuse comes your way it means you don’t know how to draw the line. The onus of maintaining her dignity or honor is on the women. The double standard that pervades the so-called progressive societies is incredulously deliberate. It is this double standard that peeks out brazenly in the Anti- #Metoo campaign.

Minakhee Mishra

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